The Con Job and How Nothing is Good Enough For Me | theremustbeawayout's Blog
At dinner we had a classic, CLASSIC example of what another member of ILIASM has described as emotional abuse.
H: For our anniversary, let's do [insert activity that involves lots of walking]!
Me: Too soon after my foot surgery.
H: [his face falls]
Me: Did I just shoot down your idea without first saying that it would be wonderful to be able to plan on doing that?
H: Yes. It will have been 3 months already!
So here's The Con, if you didn't spot it already: He's so wonderful for putting forth the effort to come up with a terrific plan for our anniversary. But the plan involves a key medical uncertainty. He has seen that my post-op has not been as rosy as could be expected. This very day he just sat in a doctor's office and heard the doc say my foot would swell for up to three months post-op. I oh-so-cruelly killed his sweet idea without first stroking his ego for coming up with a plan that is so blatantly, obviously not workable under the current situation.
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