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The Con Job and My Responsibility | theremustbeawayout's Blog

So if I am to be honest, I have to own my behavior. 

Yes, my comment to H about not being able to plan in the last reported conversation was unfair.  The comment was off topic and manipulative on my part. 

I have read Chai07's post about emotional abuse.  I have employed those tactics.  Maybe some of them have been in the name of protecting myself, maybe some of them have come as a last-ditch effort to get my points across.  All of them have been drilled into me from family experience.

So besides laying bare the manipulative con job and how I have been complicit, I must also take to task any emotionally abusive behavior on my part as well as how to correct it.  I'll have to come up with a good title for this part of the series. . .

Posted by theremustbeawayout at 10:50 on January 3rd, 2013 at 10:50AM  
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Posted on 11:16AM on Jan 3rd, 2013
Don't be too quick to take on the label of abuser. We can all be angry, or mean, or thoughtless at times ... and feel regret later, and want to improve the way we deal with others. It's a long way from that to being a user/abuser.
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